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Manners Games and Activities
Role play the following situations. . . .
1.Two children are sitting at a table coloring. One child needs a crayon that is out of his/her reach. It is within the reach of the other child. What should the first child say to the other child nearest the crayons? (Choose two children to act this out.)
2. The children are in line at the drinking fountain. Another child asks the second child in line to let him/her have "cuts" in line. What should that second child in line do? (As many children may role-play this activity as the teacher desires).
3. The teacher is giving directions and one child in the class has a question to ask about the directions being given. What should that child do?
4.It's a cold day outside and one child has a sweater and a coat. Another child has no sweater or coat and is wearing a short-sleeved shirt. What should the first child do in this situation? (Choose two children to act out this situation. Either use a real sweater and coat or just pantomime putting them on.)
Please and Thank You
~If you were the only person in the world, you wouldn't need manners. But there are lots of people in the world, and good manners help everyone get along together.
~When we ask for something we say "Please", when someone gives us something, we say "Thank You".
~At lunch time, we know we wash our hands and sit up straight at the table. And we know that its not polite to talk with our mouths full.
~When we play together, everyone has a good time when we share, and are polite to each other.
~When we are playing with our friends, it is not polite to whisper about someone who is near by, because it might hurt their feelings.
~It is not polite to interrupt someone who is trying to talk.
~Everyone likes a person who has good manners. Good manners make everyone happened make you a person who is nice to know.
~What should you say if you walk in front of someone? You say "Excuse me"
~Moving over so someone can sit down is called? "Sharing"
~When you ask for something you say....."Please"
~When you receive something you say...."Thank You"
Quality "Manner" Control
I have those "rules" on pasteboard, hanging in our playroom, and we assign an area to someone each day, and that person helps everyone else to remember how to use his manners.
You will need a collection of pictures (cut from magazines, each showing children or adults experiencing one of the emotions. Glue to identical sizes of heavy construction paper or card stock. Number Some children have no words to express how they feel. They need to hear such words as "happy," "sad," "angry" and "afraid" if they are to understand their emotional experiences.
During circle time, hold up one of the pictures and ask the children how this person feels. (If they do not know, tell them.) Ask the children to talk about what they see that makes them Activity Stack at least three pictures of each emotion on a table in your classroom. Mix up the order of the pictures. Hand the stack to a child and ask him to group all the sad pictures together, Either at a table or during circle time, show several pictures portraying the same emotion and ask the children to identify how all the people feel.
Things you will need: small paper bags; Marking pens; Rubber cement; Scissors; Construction paper. Children like puppets because they can safely pretend to be someone else without fear of criticism. The ability to project What to do: Using a small paper bag, make a sample puppet whose face expresses one of the basic emotions. Set materials on the table in the art area and invite the children to make their own happy, sad, angry or Want to do more: Create your own puppet family, each puppet expressing a different emotion. Use these puppets to put on brief skits for the group.
Manners Tea Party
Celebrate good manners with a tea party. Discuss the manners that will be necessary at the party. Make honeybuns and have tea.
Miss Bee Polite
If you'd like your little ones to begin making choices about mannerly behavior, keep this activity in mine. First have each child make a Miss Bee puppet. To make one, draw a smiling face on one yellow paper plate and a frowning face on a second plate. Color tow craft stick black. But two small circles from black construction paper; then glue a circle to one end of each craft stick to represent antennae. To the back of one plate, tape the craft stick antennae at the top of the plate. Tape another craft stick to the bottom of the plate for a handle. Glue the backs of both plates together. When each child has made a puppet, have him use his puppet during this group time activity. Using each of following suggestion, describe a situation in which proper or improper manners were used. Direct each child to display either the happy or sad expression on his puppet to indicate if Miss Bee Polite would approve or disapprove of the behavior. After using the following suggests, encourage volunteers to contribute scenarios of their own.
1. Beatrice Butterfly said, "Pass the flowers, please"
2. Gracie Grasshopper said, "thank you," when she was given a treat.
3. Bobby Bumblebee bumped his brother off the beehive.
4. Arnie Ant waited his turn in line.
5. Carl Caterpillar crunched quietly.
6. Chrysy Caterpillar chatted with her mouth full.
7. Sammy Spider played with his food.
8. Christopher Cricket chirped wile another cricket was chirping.
9. Casy Cricket chirped, "Excuse me," before interrupting.
10. Lucy Ladybug borrowed a leaf without asking.
Honey Of A Game
This honey of a game will give your little one practice using the magic words "please" and "thank you". In advance, cut honeycomb shape from yellow construction paper, then add details with a marker. Remove Miss Bee Polite's straw hat and place it in a chair that is near, but facing away from your group area. To play, seat the class on the floor. Ask a volunteer to sit in the chair, wear the hat and pretend to be Miss Bee. Place the honeycomb under the chair Ask miss Bee to close her eyes, then quietly choose another child to tiptoe to the chair and take the honeycomb. The child then returns to the group and sits on the honeycomb. As miss bee to open her eyes and face the group. Recite this chant:
(Class) Miss Bee Polite, your very sweet. May we please have a honey treat?
(Miss Bee) Miss Bee Polite says, "Yes, you may."
(Class) "Thank you, thank you" we all say.
Give Miss Bee several chances to guess who took the honeycomb before revealing the child, if necessary. The child who took the honeycomb then becomes Miss Bee. Continue until each child has been queen bee.
Miss Bee Polite recommends making a batch of stickers to remind youngsters to use good manners. Or use the stickers as rewards for those who make an effort to show exceptional etiquette. Simply use a black marker to draw stripes on a set of yellow dot stickers (the kind like for yard sales---my input ) Encourage a child to press a sticker on his hand or clothing. Your room is sure to be buzzing with "bee-utiful" behavior!
Place a container of Honeycomb cereal in hour housekeeping area along with napkins, small paper plates, and a spoon. Set Miss Bee on the center of the table. Encourage each child to have a seat a the table, obtain a napkin and a plate, and serve himself a spoonful of cereal. Remind youngsters that Miss Bee will be watching for polite table manners.
Ask your kids what it means to be kind or to be a friend or to be nice, whatever they call it. I really made a list of their answers and put them in a rhyme. It is short, but to the point. It was important to me that the words were theirs- because they need to be able to understand what they are promising! Our pledge goes like this:
Today I pledge to be kind,
to use the nicest words I can find.
Today I pledge to try to share,
to wait my turn and to be fair.
Sharing Obstacle Course
Set up an obstacle course and have the children go through it moving in one direction. Remind the children about politely taking turns -- good practice for children who have trouble waiting for slower children ahead of them.
Phone Manners Fun
Have the children practice using the telephone, dialing properly, and how to ask for their friend:
Hello, May I please speak to _________, Also practice how to answer the phone, "Hello" and "I'll get my mother"
Manners Role Play
Role play answering the door and greeting a friend for a play date. After the visit, the child says, thanks for coming "; after the visiting friend says, "Thanks for having me."
The Gift of Friendship
Remind the children how good people feel when they give someone a gift and the person shows their appreciation. What are some ways to show your appreciation? "Thank you," "it's beautiful!", "It's just what I wanted," "I love it!" Have the children draw names and make a gift (picture) for the name they drew. Gibe their friend the gift. Then have the children make thank you cards with markers or crayons for the picture.
We also made a chart and asked the kids to help me think of times when it is important to say "please" and "thank you" (i.e. Please, pass the salt) and we posted them on the board.
Keep Your Hands To Yourself
The kids and I talked about keeping our hands to ourselves (not pushing, not invading others' space). Then the children paint their handprints onto a piece of construction paper. The older ones wrote "I can keep my hands to myself".
Each child brings in a toy or special item to "share" with the group. We talked about how good it makes us feel when we share things.
Each child had a "job" when we made cupcakes... I explained about how the cupcakes would not turn out if each of us did not share in the work.
I made each child a cup of colored water--red for one, blue, and then yellow for the third. I then took empty cups and let red add some water and then blue (made purple)..and yellow added to blue (green) and red and yellow (made orange). Reinforced this double lesson with a chart (drew circles and in them wrote "Red" + "Blue" = "Purple"...etc...) and let them color them as they completed each mixing.
I took the kids for a walk and when we got home, we discussed different sounds we heard, what we talked about on our walk, etc..easy, open discussion.
Cover Up and Block the Yuck
First read the book "Cover your nose when you sneeze" Then we took a paper plate and I let the kids draw a self portrait on the front. Next they traced their hands on colored construction paper and placed a kleenex, then the hand cutout on top and stapled it (over the nose of their picture) onto the paper plate.
Sharing Box Fun
Make a sharing box that contains two or three toys for each child. Place the box on the floor and let each child choose a toy to play with. Set a kitchen timer to go off after several minutes. When the children hear the timer bell, have them put their toys back into the box and choose other ones. Then set the timer bell again.
I print this out in letter form and send it out to all parents during MANNERS week.
THREE WAYS TO FIND COOPERATIVE BEHAVIOR
1) List ten things you would like your child to do. Spend five minutes, twice a day, looking for those behaviors. Each time your child does something on the list, put a check by the item. Be generous in interpreting the child's behavior.
2) Ask someone to help you look for desirable behavior. See how long a list you can make in ten minutes. Try again an hour later.
3) Ask your child's teacher, day care provider, or scout leader to tell you three things your child does well.
TEN WAYS TO ENCOURAGE DESIRABLE BEHAVIOR
1) Smile at your child.
2) Offer your child a hug.
3) Praise the behavior, "Thank you for walking quietly."
4) Watch him while he practices the piano or any other activity
5) Acknowledge your child with a nod when he enters the room.
6) Put a happy face sticker on her hand.
7) Read a book or watch TV with your child.
8) Write a note to your child acknowledging his effort.
9) Make a point to attend events your child participates in; such as sports or theater.
10) Write a letter to a friend at the table while your child is studying.
THREE *RULES* FOR EFFECTIVE PRAISE
1) Be specific. "Good job sharing your dinosaurs," is much better than, "Good boy!" Children need to know exactly what they're doing right. You can praise effort as well as success by saying, "I like the way you tried to...".
2) Be sincere. Don't exaggerate praise. A child will probably not believe the statement, "That's the best drawing I've ever seen," but will respond positively to, "I sure like the way you drew this part of the picture up here. How did you do that?" or, "I can see that you worked really hard on this."
3) Be immediate. You must praise children while they still remember what they did. Young children need information right away. For example, "Thank you for closing the door gently. I like the way you remembered to do that."
FIVE EXAMPLES OF EFFECTIVE PRAISE
1) Nice work--making your bed.
2) Well done!--you put away all the toys.
3) I noticed--you helped your sister get a drink. That was kind.
4) I'm glad--you remembered to use words when you're mad.
5) Good try!--most of the cereal is in the bowl.
~the above from the book Magic Tools for Raising Kids by Elizabeth Crary
Manners Recipes and Snacks
Give each child a different kind of fruit for snack (apples, oranges, raisins, etc) and let the children share their snack with one another so that everyone has a variety.