How Do You Divide Household Chores?
ROTFLOL ---- Oh, hang on... Gotta wipe that tear out of my eye. Yes, I know what you are all thinking right now... "She's been spewing family harmony to us now for four weeks, and must have the most wonderful husband and children... yadda, yadda."
If you are one of those wives with the husband who goes off to work nine hours a day and comes home, picks up the baby, gives you a kiss and walks into the other room to change a diaper - you are lucky! I do know two dads like this and therefore know that they do exists. At times I am jealous and secretly wish my husband would do more at home.
For seven years I have asked, pleaded and cried to get help with the laundry or dishes and even the more than occasional diaper change. Out of pure quilt, I may get a day of extra help, but it fades fast and he is lounging in front of the Simpons once again.
His argument: he takes care of the outside of the house and I take care of the inside of the house.
I didn't care for this argument, and now there is no more argument. It is a feud that I refuse to initiate (of course much to the surprise of my dear husband). It isn't worth it to my stress level to spend time asking for help. If he doesn't care whether there are any clean underwear in his draw than neither do I. I will get to it when my schedule allows me to get to it and there is to be no word about it from the ranks. (My immediate response is "Do it yourself then"; therefore, they know better.) I went out to buy a stockpile of underwear and socks for each member of our family, so there is no more running out and no pressure on me. I did the same thing with spoons. There were never enough spoons in the house to make through a 24 hour period. Sippy cups? We have 10.
When it comes to that family harmony, I am the first to say, "Okay, this didn't work. Why beat a dead horse? Figure something else out."
I do find myself reading those enticing article, "How to make him a super dad!" and "How to ask so things get done." It always seemed as though the argument of the century would follow after I finished reading one of these self help articles. Now you may be thinking "Oh, that poor thing. She let him win." I'm here to tell you, Yep! I sure did. It is one area that I really don't mind losing in. I don't like the dirty clothes, or the dirty dishes, or the dirty floors, etc., etc., etc., but tell me who the heck does. And really, am I just begging for help because I don't want to do it either? After all, I could be cleaning the kitchen floor right now, instead of playing on my computer. Hmmmm..... nope don't want to fit that into my schedule right now, but I'm not going to hold that against my husband either.
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